Communicate With Your Child
Children undergo a volley of emotions at a various stages of their childhood. This makes them bright or intense at times. Being a parent it very important that they are taught to cope with their feelings and proceed in the right direction emotionally. To begin with discuss the topic of feelings with your children so that they are comfortable with their presence in their lives. It is important as it builds the emotional bonding both the ways. Do not disregard your child’s problems. Instead of ignoring her imaginary gloom, probe deep into her psyche.
During the times of distress, don’t take it for granted that your child will come to talk to you. Interact with her lovingly and ask her about her feelings. May be she is feeling lonely and forlorn. Talk to her in detail while giving due importance to her thoughts and feelings. Here parents also need to identify emotions. Also teach children to be acquainted with feelings. For this provide them with abundance of emotions. Put questions to her like - are you feeling alone or unloved? Why are angry? What makes you sad or jealous? Do you feel as if none of your friends likes you? Do you sometimes feel we perhaps love your brother/sister more?
It will also be unfair on a parent’s part if you just focus on bad feelings. Give heed to good feelings too. Share your own experiences so that they come out with their own.
After probing enough, give time to your child also. Sit back and give patient hearing to your child. Children will unlock their minds to you only if they feel you are actually paying attention to what they are saying. Hence let child do the talking for a while.
Try to be completely honest with your feelings and attitude because if your words don’t match your facial expression, children feel the lack of resemblance. This can make them unsure of what you say may not pay enough attention.
If not taken care, turmoil during formative years can leave emotional scars on the fragile minds of children. They might experience a range of conflicting emotions that leave them baffled and upset them. If parents discuss and probe how are leading their days, it would do wonders to their self-esteem.
Finally, Use clear, consistent, positive communication to help form your child’s understanding. Teach them kindness and honesty for the rest of their lives. Also implement active listening. These are the essential ingredient of true communication that also earns interest and respect for children.